Speaking earlier this week at the Obama Foundation Conference, former First Lady Michelle Obama praised her husband - with a big warning

She praised Barack Obama's civilization, integrity, andintegrity and told about those things that were necessary for their growth  and success - but it was worth noting thatthey were only part of their big support network Are there.

 She said, "I love my husband, and she is my rock, but my girlfriends are my conscience," she said, when her friend, poet Elizabeth Alexander  had interviewed.

 Obama talked about the fact that Obama had paired closefriendships with other women during a strange existence in the White House,kept it on its base, and even liable to its values ​​and ideals. Also told.

It's well known by now that men and women generally dofriendship differently. Women's friendships are known to be much moreemotionally intimate and rewarding while men's often are more likely to besurface-level and based on shared activities. According to some real talk fromthe former first lady, women just do friendship better.

"I’m, you know, sad for you guys," she said."Y’all should get you some friends. Get you some friends and talk to eachother, ‘cause that’s the other thing we (women) do; we straighten each otherout on some things, our girlfriends."

Her husband, she says, is no exception.

"Sometimes I’m like, 'Barack, who you talking to? And itcan’t just be Marty ,'" she joked. "Y’all need to go talk to eachother about your stuff because there’s so much of it. It’s somessy."

Men do need more friends.

Studies show that chronic loneliness is a near-epidemicin adult men, with both the quantity and quality of our friendships falling offa cliff once we reach adulthood, and that the suicide rate formiddle-aged men is more than three times that for women.

This doesn't happen by accident. We live in a society thatencourages men to suppress feelings from a young age so they don'tappear "weak." The emphasis on "strength" in men oftencomes at the detriment of many other (arguably more important) traits.

It's time for this to change. "It’s powerful to havestrong men, but what does that strength mean?" Obama mused. "Youknow, does it mean respect? Does it mean responsibility? Does it meancompassion?"

It'll take a big cultural shift to get more men opening upto each other, but having someone as influential as Michelle Obama addressingthe issue is a good start.




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